What kind of relationship is this?

[Shar]

Hopefully you guys can help me figure this out.....
My best friend set me up with her brother for our semi-formal in january. Things went great, and at the end of the night he asked me to his semi the next week. My friend seemed thrilled, albeit a little awkward about it. At the afterparty of his semi, we talked the whole time. He said he didn't care what anyone else thought of us and near the end of it we started making out. At the end of that night we made plans to see a movie this past friday. He took me out for dinner and paid for everything. We seem to really have a connection. But then I was talking to my friend about it, and she said she asked him if he thought we were dating, and he told her he didn't think so because he doesn't know where i stand.
Really? Why does he keep wanting to see me if we're not dating? Should i call him and talk about it? i don't want to be pushy about it, but if i can, i'd like to turn this into a more serious relationship....
thanks for any advice!

[DatingDiva]

Well if you really like this guy and cant wait anymore, you can probably talk out. On the other hand you can allow him and yourself some time, you will be able to figure out where this friendship is heading.

[Shar]

thanks for the advice!

[JaniceIrene]

Really? Talk it out? You have only been on a few dates with him. Women would be smart to realize early on, "The thrill is in the chase". Next time he calls tell him you already have plans. Don't be so available and eager. It's a tight rope, I know.

When I first started dating my now husband of 20 years he said he didn't want to be tied down. I told him that was fine with me because I didn't want to be tied down either. I told him we would keep our "relationship" loose. That if we made plans, we made plans. If we didn't then I would see him when I see him.

I think there is something alluring about a woman who isn't clingy and has her own interests and life going on.

[Yawzah]

Well when I first started dating my bf, I was dating another guy....my bf didn't believe in relationships...heard that over and over. But since I had distanced myself, not available as much, etc lo and behold he started calling me his girlfriend. One day I asked if I really was his gf, and if so then I think we'd be committed. Been with him 2yrs now, he's got his space and I've got mine. I think above is right...they need the chase.

[helen]

I think above is right...they need the chase.

Correct!! Most men, like old wives tell us, are hunters. My take, go dating with other guys and migle with the singles all the time. Make him miss ya, babe-- works all the time

It would really help if you talk it out with him.. just don't do anything stupid and act desperate.

[Mimi2010]

I think you should ask him about the relationship of yours. May he didn't want to make her sis feeling bad or something like that. You know, some girls doesn't like it if their brothers date their best friend. It's kinda strange and awkward. you should give both of them time and space