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Marriage: could be heaven, could be hell. Could be ever-after, could be a 52-hour-Britney kinds. So if you want to get married, you gotta know why you want to get married. Here we bring you reasons why you should NOT get married...that is, if a long-term relationship is what you are looking for...

Don’t marry for money and security

So you are marrying someone, who, as the slang would sum it up, is ‘‘loaded.’’ Great! It is not the wisest thing to get married to someone penniless on the hope that love will keep us alive unless you want to work 18 hours, two jobs a day. But marrying just for money, regardless of your feelings for that person is an even bigger mistake. Soon you will realise that you wanted all the wrong things, and the marriage, the less said about it the better. But if your mantra is summed up by Abba’s If I could myself a wealthy man then atleast compromise and try to find a rich person you enjoy being with. Some just marry for a better life but one should be selective and take some time to decide on getting married, even if love isn’t the first priority; security is.

Don’t marry because you want out!

...Of your parents home that is. Many people opt for marriage since things at home take a grim turn. It could be because your parents are pressurising you, it could be because the financial condition is not stable, it could be because you are not happy by the way your life is shaping up but this is akin to jumping into the fire from the frying pan. It is probably less painful to stick it out at home for some more time than get married to the first person who comes along. For what starts for the wrong reason never really turns out right and the results of a bad marriage are faced not only by the couple but also the two families. People dissatisfied at the home front opt for a hasty marriage but it is more advisable to get into a relationship and try to find out just how compatible you are.

Don’t marry because he/she’s become a habit

If a couple has been together for some time and decides to get married out of sheer habit, chances are it may not work. Because happy marriages are more than a habit... they are based on a true liking for each other. But the danger signals start flashing even more wildly if a couple who have already married and divorced, decide to give it a second try. If it didn’t work the first time round, it’s not going to work the second time round. Coming together with your ex is usually a bad, bad idea.

Don’t marry because the biological clock is ticking

Wanting children is a big issue with a lot of people but would you want to bring up your children in an environment which is less than conducive? Kids are sensitive and an unhappy home environment might harm them forever. Also once the kids are gone, you will still be stuck with the same person. A mother or father for your kids whom you respect and like is the least your kids expect from you.

Don’t marry to keep up with the Joneses

All your friends are getting married and you are a little tired of all those aunts cornering you at weddings and asking you ‘when do we attend yours?’ You are better off alone than with someone who makes you miserable. Don’t give into the first person who comes along just because the world wants to see you married.

In need of a father/mother for your child

It is very important that the person you are introducing in your child’s life is capable of giving love and affection as required by your child. If you have even the slightest doubts. don’t take the step. It is worse for the child to have a bad step-parent than having just one parent who cares for them.

Your parents like the person

Yes, you do have responsibilities towards them and it is very important for you that they approve of your partner but don’t marry a person just because he has your parents’ stamp of approval. They have your best interests at heart but they are not you! Their liking of this person is not enough reason for you to consider marriage. Years after they are gone, you will still be stuck with the person of their dreams, who might not be the person of your dreams.